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"My marriage is in trouble. What should I do?"
First of all you need to be honest and admit to yourself that your marriage is indeed in trouble. The attitude of "ignore it and it will go away" will lead to certain disaster.
Secondly, talk with your spouse. Choose the time and place carefully. Describe what you see and feel; don't attack.
Thirdly, work with your spouse to try and agree on what the problem(s) is/are. Be specific in defining the problem. Decide if others are involved in the problem.
In the fourth place, be honest about the level of commitment to the marriage. Remember that you ended up where you are over the course of years and it won't be fixed in six weeks.
In the fifth place, don't forget to pray. If ever there was a time to ask for help and guidance, it is when there is a troubled marriage.
In the sixth place, ask each other what will be the first sign that things are getting better. Again, be specific. Commit to doing these things.
In the seventh place, recall a time when your marriage was healthy. What is the difference now? Can you repeat now what was happening then.
In the eight place, do you need outside help? Consider the shepherds of your church, your minister, or a professional counselor. Just don't wait too long
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