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Kids Need Rules
Whether or not we choose to admit it, our children enter a society that is based on rules. The schools have rules; jobs have rules; driving has rules; the government has rules. There are even unwritten rules for developing and maintaining friends. It is up to us as parents to introduce the "Rules and Consequences" concept to our children at home.
Rules and Consequences Should Be Specific. They must be clear enough to be easily understood. A specific rule is: "All homework must be done before the television can be watched." The clear consequence of disobedience is loss of TV privileges for the weekend.
Rules and Consequences. The rule must be attainable and the consequence within reason. For example, an unreasonable rule for some children would be requiring straight A's in school. Fit the rule to the ability and maturity level of the child.
Rules and Consequences Should be Enforceable. Don't make rules you cannot enforce. By the same token, don't establish a consequence that is ridiculous or overbearing. "The next time I find you even speaking to that person, " we holler, "You'll be on restriction until Christmas!"
Children are children! They will try nearly anything to escape the rules. Parents must be parents! Don't nag; don't preach; don't argue; don't even warn. ENFORCE THE RULES! The inevitable results are too costly to do otherwise. --Copied
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